Sharing with love

Dear John,


My English is not the best, but I will share my point of view about your post.

Why people are afraid to love? Why some must struggle to have a balanced relationship? Why are so afraid to lose they’re "object" of love? Why people need to control each other in a relationships?

You say love is a feeling, for me “Love is not a feeling, is an –inner- ability” and manifests in attitudes. The good feelings that we call love can be passion, biological processes that gives you pleasure, excitement, dizziness and other feelings we relate to “being in love”. But love is more, much more than a feeling, is not only about your own pleasure and comfort, love is about to give, share the best we have.

So, I think, the real problem about romantic relationships, it’s because people don’t know what love is. People mix passion with love and when passion goes away, they feel frustrated. And then, they believe they need some other person. And another, and another, and another, over and over. Sometimes they give up.

Other reason of failing in relationships is because people don’t know themselves, rarely they question about their mission in this live, they’re essence, the inner self. Most of people search for fulfillment outside, in other persons, in "sex, drugs & Pock'nRoll", in a successful career, in certain conditions to fell comfort, pleasure, save and admired.

You will never find outside what is inside of you.

Are you running from you? Are you afraid of you?

Feeling “in love” (in Portuguese we say apaixonado) is not a condition for fulfillment, it’s only an effect of real love (not only the romantic love). Real love is the cause. Is the great potential you have inside desperately asking you to rise.

To be happy in a romantic relationship (and other relations), you first have to Know/love yourself and spirit (no fear) to share the best you have, then love will embrace your life.

With love,

Sz